Teaching Children How To Be Respectful
As a parent there are many things that we have to teach our children , from
reading to even the small things like showing kindness and being grateful. As a
parent it is very important for us to show the more valuable ideologies because we
are their very first teachers that they have. That being said it gives us a task of
teaching skills that will build them up to be good role models in society.
one of the most critical things that I feel a child should learn is how to be
respectful towards others. Not only will it help them stay humble but it can also
provide them with valuable knowledge from the experiences they will go through.
That being said it is very important to remember that respect has to be shown in
order for it to be earned. Making it essential for us to be patient when our young
ones are trying to acquire this virtue.like all things parenting its a funny but long
process so just relax and don’t stress about it.In this informative article , I’ll try to
break down how you can effectively show them how to become respectful through
various types of Tips and strategies.
To start with we have to know what exactly it means in order for us to fully display
it.so according to the dictionary it means having a deep feeling of admiration for
someone or something elated by their abilities, qualities or achievements. The
Oxford dictionary further goes on to say that it can be a due regard for the
feelings,wishes,rights or traditions of others.
Having said this it is essential to remember that this definition might only make
sense to us as guardians and not so much for the children. This then causes me
to poses a question to us , which is how can we then translate that meaning into
something more understandable for the little ones to recognize.Explaining this
concept to them can be done in alot of ways, however I’ll start by giving you a
more kid friendly definition of respect that you can give them.
“This is the act of considering someones feelings and treating them like you would want them to treat you “ - mom
You can use that meaning as it is easier to explain to them, but another thing you
can do is to use examples of when and how to be respectful. Not only will it allow
them to appreciate you when they see it being done in real time but, will also help
them remember it more vividly.Here are some examples
- Telling them to listen to adults when they are talking
- Telling Them name calling is not nice
- Not talking back to elders when being talked to
- Making sure that you follow whatever elders tell you and ask you to do
And so on. So the above are just a few examples of how respect is shown, you
can also find more of these examples on the talkingtreebook.com website.
1.Lead by being respectful
As mentioned earlier in the post we are our little ones first instructors as they
enter into this world, that is why it is very essential for us to lead by example when
it comes to this virtue.In order for us to gain respect it has to be shown,making it
our responsibility to play our part. Children usually learn by seeing and then
repeating what they have seen, so try to be the best role model you can be in their
Leading by example also means you’ll have to show them the same leave of
admiration that you would demand. Doing this can be difficult at times but it just
has to be done. In order for it to be returned.So try by all means to listen to them
when they talk or even give them the privacy of their own.its small things like this
that can really give you success when it comes to achieving what you want.
Another thing you can do in terms of being their model, is that you can show them
that owning up for mistakes is important too. This not only shows them that its
good practise to apologize for mistakes but also a great way to show them how to
2.Notice The Patterns
The next thing you must do in order to change them is to notice what might be
causing them to act a certain way. noticing a change can be a great way to start
changing there mentality.Sometimes children might act disrespectful because
there needs aren’t being meet.Therefore talking to them and having that one on
one conversion might actually make a difference on how the react towards you
Finding out what is causing them to act the way they are is definitely one of the
best ways to approach the problem. This might be because most of the time we
rush towards punishment when sometimes all they might need are some sweet
words from the ones they love and they’ll be ready for change.
Another word of advise is that you’ll have to be very quick in detecting a change in
their attitude, because if you let them off the hook it can cause them to get fed up
of this process once it is started and make them distant towards you.
3.Manage The Content
I find this a useful factor that parents usually miss when it comes to teaching their
children how to be respectful, making them listen to or watch helpful content is
very important as it helps them learn much faster.
Having said that it becomes imperative for us guardians to Give them appropriate
content that teaches them about respect, it can be through watching Youtube
videos, cartoons, or even movies as long as it has a positive impact on their
personality in terms of attentiveness as well as consideration.
Managing the content they watch is really essential in the up bringing of your child
in general because according to the fastcompany website the brain makes
it easy for us to remember what we have seen, this makes it a really good
So does the content your child watch help them grow in any way and if
it doesn’t what measures have you put into place to change that ? so try as much
as possible to feed them good quality information from a young age.
4.Discipline your Children
The act of training someone to follow the rule or obey code using a punishment is
what we all refer to as discipline . Sometimes you might just have to put a bit more
emphasis on getting the message through to them. Showing them some form of
discipline might be need even if you are trying to teach Them to be respectful .
However try not to be too harsh with whatever punishment that you are giving
them. As this makes them resist you and cause them to draw further away from
you which is something no parent would want for there child. Adjusting the means
of punishment and still staying respectful of them is a good way to get started.
Also some parents might thinking that disciplining your children harshly is wrong
but sometimes in order for them to stop doing something bad they have to be
shown the after effects.
Another thing you can do before disciplining them is briefly engaging in
conversations with them and talk to them about what happened. This helps you to
listen to what the they have to say and hear out their side of the story. In doing
this you are not only showing them respect but also giving them a different angle
on how they too can handle things in a calm manner. Besides there just might be
a somewhat valid reason for them acting out . So don’t be too quick to put your
foot down just yet , try to ask them why and let them explain.
5.Its All About Actions
This can also be listed under being a role model but it has to be stressed
differently, it is very essential.That as grown ups we display this virtue not only to
your children but also to other people too.Because I remember as a kid I used to
notice how my parents used to treat people to see if they would stick to what they
said and it turns out they would stick to what that they said. it turns out they did
atleast most of the times. So being mindful of how you treat people whilst your
kids is very important and to add on .
it also makes it a good thing to tell close friends and family members to have the
right behaviour when they are around your young ones. This will help create a
good environment for them to actively grow in the correct manner. Making it even
easier for them to gain great morals as they see them as norms.learning things
that might make them disrespectful . Also try as much as possible to get friends
for them that will add on to them instead of destroying them.
6.Respect & Examples
Sometimes the best way to get the point across on becoming more respectful is
to practice some examples by literally showing them.I know this might sound like
something that might be irrelevant but it can be very useful to them.
Acknowledging that kids don’t understand things the way you do is very important
to keep in mind and using this strategy can be great tool to use. so showing them
some sample scenes and acting them out in a fun fashion.Doing this will not only
make them get excited about learning but also allow them to take up the
information more easily, another plus is that It will reduce the risk of rejecting this.
7. Patience & Consistent
As with all things parenting it is very important that you maintain the same level of
consistency and patient when it comes to your methods of choice. This is
because sometimes these methods might take alittle while in order for them to
actually come to pass. Therefore with frequent passing you’ll be able to succeed
in whatever you are doing.
So don’t get frustrated if they don’t get it the first or second time because they are
just little after all so be patient they will eventually get it. Another thing is that you
shouldn’t over estimate your expectations when it comes to teaching respect as it
has to be shown in order for it to be earned.
Also try and make this experience a fun and memorable one it definitely helps
them to take in the information more easily . so don’t be too serious and try not to
stress too much about it because it will all be alright in the end.So try to stay
chilled and relaxed as this too is showing them a great amount of respect towards
8.Good deeds Shouldn’t go Unnoticed
Respect is something that is earn and not given right ? .So it can be nice of you to
show some gratitude towards them when they do something that is good. This will
motivate them and help them to consistently practice it, it will also build up
momentum to make them try harder to thrive and achieve even more positive
morals.In an article that was posted on the Daniel Wong website, it stated that
sometimes children might just want to get that special approval, which I believe is
very true and sometimes has to be given in a very special way.
However it is essential that we shouldn’t by any means merit bad behaviour as
this will make them think that acting that kind of way might be good . When in
actual sense it isn’t at all so that should be something that must be taken note of
in that respect.
Another important point to remember is that using family time to bond with your
little ones comes in handy whenever you are trying to show them something new.
The bond between you and the mainly determines how they will respond to what
they are being shown. So you can try to set up particular days of the week in
which you can use up that time to do things Together as a family.
Post By Lifestyle'N'stuff
Date 27 Nov 2019