Have you ever felt like you have been an Uninvolved in the life of your child ? ,
well don’t worry this feeling happens to everyone and this is probably why you
are visiting this blog post.With everything that goes on in our daily lives such as
work and other activities , we might just forget that we need to spend the much
needed quality time with our children.
Spending enough time with them will allow them to connect with us and create a
strong , valuable bond with them which will withstand the taste of time.If you are
feeling like you haven’t been as involved in your child’s life cheer up, because in
this informative post will talk all about it and find ways to become a better parent.
What is Uninvolved Parenting ?
In order for us to fully understand this topic we must know what it means.
According to the whitenswanfoundation , it was stated as a style of parenting
in which the individual tends to be involved with their own lives that they tend to
unknowingly ignore the needs of the child. From the above definition we can
deduce that this kind of parental style may not be used willingly but happens as
a result of being to occupied with other things.
Is This a style of Parenting ?
Even though we might think that it isn’t because of the above definition it is
currently being used by many people today, this style is adopted for various
reasons for instance it might be due to the pressure that is being experienced
within the relationship or could be as a result of financial hardship.
However I feel that its possible for a guardian to adopt this method of parenting
due to the fact that they might have gone through the same thing when growing
up, thinking that getting what ever there children want will fix that separation
when in reality it doesn’t work like that. This method is not the only method of
parenting out there, the three other types are namely Authoritarian, Authoritative
and permissive which will be looked at in more detail in my other blog post.
The Patterns of Uninvolved Parents
Because this style is unintentionally done , there might be a few traits that you
might what to note about to check on whether or not you have adopted this
method.Here are some of the characteristics below.
1. Might Act emotionally distant from children
2. May have little or no time to attend to the emotional needs of the child
3. They Don’t show any interest in the young ones productivity such as not
attending plays or parent-teacher meetings
4. They don’t really show the responsibility when it comes to teaching their child
how to behave correctly
5. Lastly they have a very weak connection with their children.
How Uninvolved Parenting Affects Children
So what are the effects on children with this kind of parenting ?, will children that
grow up in such kinds of homes can be affected in many ways and here are
some of these below.
1.Lack of Guidance
Growing up in this way will cause a child to start fending for themselves from a
very young age, without having the knowledge about what is right or wrong. This
will cause them to do things that they might regret in the future, that being said it
is a parents responsibility to make sure their children grow up the right way.If you
don’t take up the challenge to show them what is right from wrong they will
eventually have to learn this on their own , which is not what any guardian would
want to see.So keep trying as much as you can to bring up your kids in the best
way you can.
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2.Might Lead Children Down The Wrong Path
Yes this is very true, because they weren’t receiving any guidance or moral
support from home it can cause them to learn things on their own as mentioned
in the post above.With the growth of technology and social media it makes it very
easy for them to fall prey to the influence of what society has to offer, which can
lead them down a path that is not right for them.
Meaning that they can easily become very addicted to drugs or even very
abusive towards other people,so as their guardians try as much as possible to
lead your young ones down a path that is right for them. Make it your goal to do
so and even when you are far from them they will still be able to remember the
things that you had taught them, this will allow them to be more accountable for
themselves and help them be honor people in society.
However am this doesn’t mean you have to monitor each and every thing they do
but it means you just have to make sure you show them what the right thing to do
3.Lack of Self Esteem & Self Confidence
Those that are brought up in this manner may experience a lack of both self
confidence and self esteem, this can be due to the fact that the very first people
that they meet when they came into the world are not showing enough care
Growing up like this will prevent them from reaching and achieving there full
potential, it will also have a negative effect on the ability to make decisions and
believe in themselves.So as a parent you are your childs first teachers which
means you have to be with them every step of the way in order for them to
become relevant people in society.
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This is another effect that Uninvolved parenting has on children, they tend to
become emotionally unavailable.By this it doesn’t mean that they don’t show
emotions but they don’t have the ability to express themselves in the right
manner.Just like the inability to express themselves correctly will have a huge
impact on there well-being both emotional and mentally, this unavailability can be
as a result of the lack of the emotional connection between them and their
parents during there time growing up.
Having a strong bond with them is very essential as it allows them to open up to
you about their problems much easily,this gives you a chance to guide them even
further.Emotions are what make us human, so don’t deprive your child the right to
hugs and all the love you can give them.
Although this has already been hinted in other points, its an important reminder to
all of us that them might feel isolated and alone.This feeling may come about
because of the lack of family support which had been stated previously,this can
cause them to become secretive towards you even when they could be dealing
with something very big.
So having to spend time together as a family can be a good thing to do, even
though you might be busy try to make sometime for our children as it will benefit
you as a family unit.
6.Excelling in Schooling
You putting off your children’s concerts concerts or plays will only make them feel
like you don’t value the effort that they put in and this can have a very huge
impact on how they perform in things like academics as well as other projects
that they would be taking part in.
Having low self esteem and low self confidence will make it harder for them to
express themselves in the community.so that being said showing them that you
are always going to support them well give them the boost that they needed.
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Hopefully you were able to pick up something from this post and try to improve
your relationship with your children.
Post By Lifestyle'n'Stuff
Date 01 Feb 2020